5 of My Best Mistakes

I always tell my students, “if you haven’t made a mistake today you aren’t learning”. I love making mistakes and admitting to them! Mistakes are the absolute best. And failing, well, failing is  … FABULOUS!

Now, it took me all of my 20’s to come this headspace – but now I am enlightened!

  1. Relationships – I’ve made some brutal mistakes with the people in my life. I mean hurtful, name calling, put up your dukes mistakes. This is one of the hardest mistakes to admit – but also the one that has taught me the most. Hands down, people matter!  Because of how I have hurt and been hurt in relationships, I try and find gratitude for the time and purpose of every person that I come across. From the person who holds open the door that I may never see again to my partner that I come home to everyday.
  2. Service – This world is way bigger than you or me. And we cannot do this humanity thing alone. Somehow, in some way we are all connected. I think I always knew this but didn’t know how to make a difference. It wasn’t until an issue became personal to me did I really understand the role of advocacy and service. Now, I see the importance of dedicating yourself as a servant leader.
  3. Self-Doubt – If you have ever been told you are not (fill in the blank) enough, you know what I am talking about. I have spent years and lots of time in therapy trying to silence all those voices in my head about what I am not (blank) enough. And my problem was that I let other people tell me my own story. I never really believed what Kate thought, and how Kate told the story of who she wanted to be. This is something I work on daily and have finally gotten hold of. I spent way to much time in the story I was making up in my head and not enough time recognizing my wonderful radiant self!
  4. Asking for Help – I have learned this lesson the hard way a million times over. Several years ago our apartment caught fire and we lost everything. I was so overwhelmed and powerless over the situation, there was no choice but to ask for help. And no matter the situation, I have learned the response is always unwavering – but you have to ask.
  5. Making Decisions for Me – I was always putting things off, not taking the ceramics class or waiting to calling the friend I hadn’t spoken to in a while. There were thousands of daily decisions that I didn’t even come close to factoring in my wellbeing. Then one day I found this print at a boutique, framed it, and I keep it by my bed! Because, I sure am a grown ass lady and I will do what I want! I love this reminder to put myself first when it matters most!

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Lets be real – I have made way more than 5 mistakes in my lifetime. And I will continue to make them, hopefully daily. Because, I LOVE to fail – I always learn the most from the fall flat on your face, the I could have handled that differently, and the ugh… I shouldn’t have done that. And although at times it can be an internal struggle, with a pit in the bottom of your stomach and you know you have done something utterly wrong.

And In that moment you have a choice. A choice to stay in the negative narrative or choose to find creativity, opportunity, and gratitude that only come from our deepest mistakes.

What has been your best mistake ?

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27 thoughts on “5 of My Best Mistakes

  1. This is a great post! I love what you wrote about Making Decisions For Me. That was a hard one for me, but an important thing to learn! – Trish

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  2. This is so counter-cultural and SO TRUE! I often learn the most in life after falling really hard on my face. =) Failure has been one of the best things to help me overcome my tendency toward performance and perfection. Thanks so much for sharing your wisdom from mistakes!

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  3. I would have to say that I am guilty too of not putting myself first! I remember a customer asking me what I liked to do in my spare time or what hobbies I had. This was shortly after having my 2nd child. I just stood there with a blank stare! I couldn’t think of anything!!!

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  4. I love that print you showed! I think everyone could benefit from having that in their home, haha! One of the best mistakes I’ve made was in the relationship department, too. It helped me realize what I was really looking for in a spouse and helped me know who he was when I met him!

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  5. I have made some massive mistakes over the years. I mean EPIC. Bt the thing is, I have learned from them all and they definitely happened for a reason.

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  6. I completely agree with asking for help. We always think that we can do everything on our own or fix all of our messes alone but we just end up overwhelmed and nothing gets done. It’s so important to get out of that mindset and to realize that there are people who love us and want to help us. Thanks so much for sharing!

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  7. I can relate to all of these to an extent but mostly #3-#5. VERY recently, I’ve been working on #4, asking for help, and speaking up for what I need – especially with friends. Thanks for sharing!

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  8. We learn best from our mistakes. I have made a lot of these, too, and I am sure that I will make more. I don’t like making mistakes, but it’s part of life. One thing I’m sure of is I come wiser from each mistake I made.

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  9. I do agree the importance of making and learning from our mistakes. I’m a huge procrastinator, so one of my best mistakes probably stemmed from putting something off for too long, and the outcome actually turned out better.

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  10. Switching gears in College from Pre-med to Communications and swapping my science internships for one at a Newspaper – Writing changed my life forever in a good way. I don’t know what Medicine as a career would have ended up being for me (certainly more profitable) but I wouldn’t change a thing! That was definitely my ‘best mistake’.

    Tracy @ Ascending Butterfly

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